Another Monday morning. Unfortunately I do not have a blog post ready yet. A combination of the business of life and a minor obsession with Downton Abbey got in the way. I found Downton Abbey on Amazon a couple of weeks ago, having not watched it when it aired originally, and it is official: I am addicted. While I am sorry that I don’t have a post ready, I have been enjoying the series. And, it actually wasn’t the only reason I am unprepared – there are those pesky details of life, too. The amount of paperwork and detail involved in a real estate transaction is beyond belief!
On a more pleasant note, two happy distractions from my writing: Happy Birthday (tomorrow), Daniel! And, mazel tov to the Goland Family!
I will post again as soon as I have something that merits sharing. Thanks for checking in.
Random thoughts and observations about relationships……
I’ve been thinking about how we know the people in our lives. And, I’m wondering: do we really know them?
Often our connections are circumstantial. School, work or our children’s activities may throw us together. Is that enough to sustain a relationship? Sometimes it is. And, how well do we get to know the person when we only interact in a certain context.
Years ago, when I was in college, I read an article in a magazine that explored friendship. I don’t remember the adjectives the author used to label the different types, but one of the ideas was that some friendships develop because of a shared experience and when that is over, so is the friendship. I think the article mentioned college friends as an example. I don’t know if that fits for me. One of the things that was true in college was that I had a lot of time to devote to those friendships. We spent hours talking and sharing insights, our histories. I share a bond with those women. As an adult, busy with work, family and the mess and responsibilities of everyday life, I don’t have the luxury of spending time in that way.
It is true, though, that some relationships don’t continue beyond the circumstances. Sometimes it could be because you move on and don’t see the person any more. Though these days with technology being what it is, that may not be a legitimate excuse. Other times it can be because the friendship isn’t that deep. If you take a class with someone and bond during it, the connection may not be strong enough to sustain it beyond that. You may try to extend the relationship, socialize beyond the classroom, and find that you just don’t have enough in common. As you get to know the person, you may find that you like them less!
It is a rare and wonderful thing when you peel back the layers of a person and find out that you like them even more.
I’ve also wondered, how many friendships can a person sustain? It takes energy to keep up. I think I may be unusual in the amount of alone time I need, to contemplate, to reflect.
And, what about family? We need to tend to those relationships, too.
With some people, you can be out of touch for months and then pick right up as if no time had passed at all.
And, then, there is the situation where you thought you knew someone and they surprise you – and not in a good way.
Sometimes I wish I didn’t think so much! Relationships, and my interior life, would be so much simpler.